To my 13 year old grandson on being sexually active

Obama's quick action on striking the restriction down on paying for abortion for foreign women who receive help from the U.S. in regard to reproduction tells us that we have a new pro choice regime and that he means business in expressing his belief in pro choice by his actions. He also has strong pro choice support in secretary of state Hillary Clinton and other pro choice democrats. I think it would be safe to assume that at this point in time he would not even have received the democratic nomination had he not exprsssed a belief in pro choice.
As I see it the citizens of the U.S. are locked in conflict with each other right now over pro choice vs. pro life. Bush becoming one of the most hated presidents in memory I think we can lay at his decision to conduct not only a war with Afganistan in his effort to bring down Osama bin Ladin because of 9/11 but war with Iraq based on faulty intelligence about their possession of weapons of mass destruction, which he has finally expressed regret about. That is he recently made a statement that he wished they had possessed better intelligence about Iraq.
Bush was given a mandate by the American people maybe because enough people saw him as the more rightous candidate with his firm support of pro life as opposed to Gore's firm support of pro choice. Pro choice democrats prefer to believe that Gore was robbed in Florida, but just the same the election was extremely close. So if Bush did not get a clear mandate he got one close enough that the public accepted his win.
I donot think that American Christians have crystallized their beliefs on abortion being wrong enough to be determined that they are going to have to do something significant about the sheer numbers of children being killed in the U.S. alone.
I do not see much sense blaming Obama when the pro choice faction has been so determined to lead the democratic party to pro choice now and pro choice forever. With a willing media, they have taught a whole lot of younger people who have practically grown up with abortion that there is nothing wrong with it. So how can we say that Obama is the villain any more than the thousands and thousands of pro choice believers in the U.S. right now? He is the fruit of their teaching.
So in this video I am not concentrating on what Obama is doing and will undoubtedly continue to do in his support of pro choice, I am saying that it is up to everyone to bring the abortion numbers down. I have always said that if every person works on the problem within their own family, their own circle, much can be done.
I am talking to my grandson on that basis, and I will continue to put out videos in this vein, hoping to keep calling attention to the need to bring abortion numbers down as we can by interacting more with anyone apt to be a part of an unwanted pregnancy. That is surely the case when a very young teen gets another very young teen pregnant.
My idea is to think of prevention, prevention, prevention. I am asking my grandson to think about being a leader in helping teens not to head straight into trouble by becoming sexually active, but to refrain in every way possible from conceiving a child when they are in no way ready to have one. I will be calling and talking to his mother more often about this, and to Dante himself. I know his mother is committed to no abortion, did not believe in it, and even though she was only 17 when she conceived Dante, and my son the father was not happy with the fact he also bore equal responsibility for, she had him. My son married her but declared his intentions not to stay married and started going out while he was stationed overseas in the Navy. So she had it rough the three years he was gone over seas.
I interacted with Dante as I tell about in this video and kept writing to his dad about what this baby was doing, and finally telling him that I feared what would happen to this child if he did not come back and get involved in his life. His job was not done.
Amazingly they reconciled for a number of years to do just that. Look after this child together as their top priority. I believe that those early rough years of the marriage caused difficulties that could not ultimately be overcome, and once again separation happened. And once again I am going to do everything I can to help get Dante through his teen years without being a part of a teen pregnancy that will either causse much hardship for all concerned, or a family tragedy if abortion is the choice. We have to look on abortion as a tragedy, as something to try to prevent at all costs.

I think that legalized abortion has torn down more morals than it has ever helped build because it has made killing another human being an option for teens when a child is conceived. I have often wondered how pro choice people can build up such a head of steam about war mongering, and global warming destroying the habitat of animals and people, and yet refuse to show any remorse about the loss of a little human being. How can we possibly claim this is a good option? It doesn't matter whether we say we believe life begins at conception or not, it takes bloodshed and killing to stop that embryo from developing into a baby that will need to be taken care of by parents who may be still children themselves. Dante has trouble accepting his mother's two babies conceived with her present companion, I know he is not ready to be a father by any stretch of the imagination and won't be for considerable time.
I think we need to paint a more realistic picture to teens of what a millstone they will put around their own necks if they get reckless with the idea that abortion will take care of any problem their out of control sexual behavior causes.
I do not think Christians have talked against legalized abortion nearly enough. They have not gone out on a limb to make this astronomical number of abortion deaths a top priority. Until they decide they mmust go to work, they too hold some responsibility for flooding the heavens with children conceived here. What is God going to say to those who say they don't believe in it, but do nothing to stop it?
So I am hoping that this will be a topic of a lot more discussion, not less, and that people will start questioning those who are so sure they are right in taking us deeper into abortion by continually striking down all limitations any faction can come up with. I intend to write a strong letter to Obama and send it to the White House about his latest action. I kept the White House mailman busy in both the Clinton and Bush years. I have a number of responses about my abortion letters from Bush. Clinton never answered any of my protests about what he was doing, but he got the letters. Plus I will be doing a lot more activities to make my opinions heard, everything I can think of! In case you want to send off a letter to the President here is his address: The White House, 1600 Pennsylvania Ave. NA, Wash. D.C. 20500.

Dante does not show up from school, Mother picked up phone 4 hrs later to file police report, Dante shows up!

Oh what a night after I had oh what a day. Both his mother and dad went to where his dad was to pick up Dante from school, and he did not show. Dan left to go take care of some business, his mother was seized with a mighty anxiety attack as all mothers are prone to, Dan refused to be as fearful, she got mad, so I became the go between talking to them both on the phone as we wondered why in a society with every other kid with a cell phone, Dante just did not call home. It figured he might have been kidnapped, held against his will, police were called and said that in four hours a police report could be filed. Mother and Dad stopped speaking as each did not react as the other thought right. I kept saying, well, call me, if you hear anything.
Finally just as his mother was picking up the phone to call the police Dante walked in the door. I told her to tell him I loved him, and to please not scare his mother and grandmother like that. His dad claimed he was not scared as he suspected that Dante being impulsive ran into something he wanted to do and did it. He said he did not want Dante to live in fear, of what punishment, as he is bound to be punished.
But in the meantime, his mother and I had a good talk about how to try to keep him from becoming sexually active as she said one of his little friends had a girl pregnant at 13! This certainly alarmed me, and she said she had taken him to an Internet website to show him all the sexually transmitted diseases he could get. She felt that his father was not a good role model for him because he was encouraging him to go with girls, probably because he is dating. I told him what she said in another phone call he made to me in between in answer to one I made to him. She is staying home keeping care of two little kids with her present love, so she has Dante during school, since Dan is working. So she probably feels she has more of Dante than she needs on a night like this.
I just tried to be as neutral as I could and not take sides too far one way or the other which is the duty of the mother and the former mother-in-law and grandmother of the child.
Doc will probably faint when he hears this story as he already thinks my family is one of the most dysfunctional on earth. He made a date for us to go on the new fast transit to the end of the line tomorrow, so I could get away from it all. So when I tell him Dante was lost for 4 hours I don't know whether HE will be able to stand it without saying something that will make me mad so that I am no longer speaking to HIM. But Dante is a TEENAGER now. Let's see sports got discussed, why hasn't his dad got him into sports so he would not be tempted by girls at his young age. I don't know the answer, but I know that Dante is going to be a teen for quite a few years so we better get prepared for the ride.

Two Xmas trees better than one, pedofile videos, and protecting grandkids

Doc and I have been very busy this morning making more videos as I found that I was not through with my discussion of the pedofile, so the first video is called "Is there a pedofile gene?" which led to more and more discussion during which Doc has a surprising reaction, a new way to protect himself from being recognized by people he knows in such a video. As I said, he is along for comic relief when the subject might be perceived as grim, only sometimes he gets carried away.
The little green Christmas tree was Doc's tree last year, so he asked me to decorate it with green balls, cheap, and after two trips to thrift stores I found these very cheap green balls that he okayed. This ball tree has almost upstaged his glass tree with the multicolorded balls, but he says he will display both.
Oh Raymond is doing wonderfully with his blog in case you have not checked it out lately (http://cowboysandbohemians.blogspot.com) and talented writers have been commenting, so be sure to read the comments, too. He wrote and produced a lot of his and other people's plays, so he is really going into some fascinating techniques of play writing.
In fact, since my family has blogged on the family site for 5 years, more of them are branching off with blogs. I think it is wonderful. My nurse sister has her grand daughter helping her to create one called Marge (so far) Margie is a nurse who has had many fascinating experiences in her career, so I hope she will soon join our active nurse Pam in the blogging world. As far as I am concerned we can't have too many nurse stories which can lure me into reading every time. Katie, Margie's grand daughter has also started her blog called Katie and Kelton to document in photos as well as words her little son's progress in the world. Her photographer is wonderful, so that blog is a real treat already. My sister Linda said this family was blogging before the word was even invented, and that is true, because we have written huge long letters to one another for years. Margie and I had to go away to school, and that started all the letters.
In those days, nobody ever called long distance. Our phone line had around 25 people on the same line. Our phone number I remember was 3 short rings and 2 long. Yes! Certain ladies in town were accused of eavesdropping every time the phone rang so they always kept up with all that was going on, just like the phone was a newspaper.
In the series we made this morning, I talk to Doc about the dangers of the Internet for kids and how hard it is to control access. I will embed more on the subject when I get one uploaded. My grandkids are impressed with how Grandma has taken to the Internet and Youtube and Blogspot, but that doesn't stop them from trying to outwit her when she is taking a nap, going to a questionable site. It takes cunning to keep up with the younger generation!